|Have you ever wished that someone else could be different? Do
you sometimes know whats best for them and that everything would
be better if only that person would change? Well, it happens to
all of us. We get an idea of how the world should be and we impose
this viewpoint on anyone who will listen. (This is especially
apparent in election years.)
When we interact with others, we engage in a co-creative process:
we share viewpoints, desires, and goals. Friendships arise out
of a shared set of viewpoints: we feel comfortable with people
who think the same way that we do. Our agreement brings a shared
sense of comfort (we think to ourselves--this person validates
me). Yet, viewpoints can be the basis for bitter animosity when
people adopt opposing viewpoints.
How do we enjoy the benefits of having others in the world when
many of them dont share our beliefs? Its simply a matter of
remembering that we ourselves are changing every moment--that our
own beliefs can change in a second and so can anothers. Maybe
youve changed political parties in your lifetime, or changed
your taste in music, or changed your allegiance to a sports team.
I can remember listening to music that my parents hated. I couldnt
imagine that they didnt appreciate it. Now, I find myself stuck
in a musical time warp; my favorite music has shifted to the oldies
Physicists tell us that the world is an absurd and irrational
place. In fact, they tell us that the world doesnt exist at all.
Physicists have discovered that reality is dependent upon the
existence of an observer. No observer, no reality--just a potential.
We can no longer speak of one world, but of an infinite number
of worlds, each manifesting from the viewpoint of an individual.
What does this mean for you and me? We can only change our experience
of the world. Are you having a good day? It really is YOUR day.
You can invite another to share your viewpoint; Hey, great day,
isnt it?, but in the end, each of us decides the kind of day
wed like to have.
In allowing others to hold their own beliefs and opinions, we
give ourselves the freedom to feel or believe anyway that we wish.
The opinions of others matter not at all. For you to be happy
requires only your own decision. You dont need anyones approval
to be happy, sad, decisive, creative, or simply to BE. The viewpoints
of another can never affect you.
When we remember that another person is not the sum of their beliefs
and viewpoints, but like ourselves, is a divine Source of viewpoints,
we can appreciate the variety that the world holds. In that appreciation,
we recover the feeling of the essence of life--that feeling of
being in the present moment when everything can change in the
blink of an eye, or the flap of a butterflys wing.
Publisher, The Holistic Networker
©1996, Tony Cecala